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November 27, 2007

More Body Modification

Filed under: D/s, Sexy Pictures, Amy Pictures — Richard @ 9:48 pm

More body modification, or if you like, de-modification.  Is that a word? It is now.

We tried Amy with the acrylic nails for a while, but they weren’t working out to our mutual satisfaction.  While they looked good, they made her feel just a touch out of sync with her fingers, plus they hurt, in general.

Well, I don’t like my baby girl feeling pain.


Unintentional pain, that is.  I don’t see the point in that.  So we had the acrylics taken off, and Amy is back to her regular nails.  Also very beautiful, just in a different way - perhaps minus the decadent feeling of sensual indulgence acrylics lend to a woman, but having a definite natural beauty.  I like both kinds of beauty.

Natural nails suits Amy best.

And, Amy is no longer smooth between her thighs.  After some discussion, in which Amy proudly told me she had been admired in the past for the look of her pubic hair, we decided to give that a try.  Amy has been keeping smooth underneath, but letting her hair grow back.  I am planning to clip it short for a photo shoot, but for now I am enjoying it as it is.

Amy nude

Very lovely.  Amy misses being smooth, and keeps asking for permission to return to that, which will be granted, but only after I get the picture I want from this.  Although the one above is also nice.

November 24, 2007

Sugasm # 106

Filed under: Sugasm — Richard @ 9:29 pm

Sanctum courtesy of Erotic Garden.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #107? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
5 Advanced Deep Throat Techniques

“Suck your man’s penis into your throat, and, while it is deep in, start to hum.”

MILF = Men I’d Like to Fuck
“He knows my body p e r f e c t l y and knows exactly how to make me squirm with pleasure and always knows the right thing to say.”

Reconciling Desire & Reality (part 2)
“The excitement of sharing her, the excitement of my arousal THEORETICALLY should mean a heightening of our own sex life.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Our fearless leader tells me he’s crazy busy so I’m presenting one from the vaults.

The Six Types of Porn Movie (and How To Get Into Them)

Editor’s Choice

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Sex News & Reviews
The End of the Mile-High Club
Fetish Film - Squealer (BSDM, Master, Shibari)
My controversial, nipple-baring Dirty Girls book cover
NEW Culture Shocking Designs!
Sex Toy Review: Mini Bullet One Touch Vibrator

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Am I born as a Whore?

Floral HNT
He’s Horny and She’s Easy
The Humble Handjob
I’ll assume i’m on the naughty list
Minus One
Obsessive Compulsive Slut
Re-discovering myself

So, doc, when can we…
Virgin Extraordinaire

Sex Poetry
Now and Zen

BDSM & Fetish
The **** machine
Erotica: Mind Games
Generic Pussy?

Get the contract signed- part two: vital lessons
Just a Few Naked Pics of Amy’s Perfect Body
Naked Service
What a Saturday
What is a Daddy Dom? Pt. 2

Sex Advice
Six ways from Sunday - Cowgirl (reversed or otherwise)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Bad Girl

Dark Cold Moons
Icing on the Cake
Like Me
The Main Course
Second Time Around

Sex Party in the Hood
Stressed Wanking

Sex Humor
Fuck’n Fun
Untitled No. 1

Sex Work
Reality Check: Eating Food

NSFW Pics & Videos

Day trip to porno town
Hannah Hilton Sexy Bikini pics
Lisa wants a spanking
Self-portrait in Boots
A Hot Femdom / Slave Boy Strap-On Scene

November 19, 2007

Amy in Lingerie in a Barn

Filed under: Sexy Pictures, Amy Pictures — Richard @ 9:47 am


November 18, 2007

BDSM or abuse?

Filed under: D/s, BDSM, Daily Life — Amy @ 8:02 am


A lot has been written making the distinction between BDSM and abuse, but a couple of recent posts I’ve seen whilst blog-hopping have made me want to add my two cents.

I’ll begin with the proviso that I don’t think there is any way to know for sure whether or not a relationship is abusive just from reading someone’s blog posts. Maybe they are leaving out crucial details, maybe they are exaggerating or under-reporting to make a better story (even unconsciously). One of the best things about blogs in which both partners write (like ours) is that you get a real sense of how two people can see the same situation quite differently. I’m still often surprised by Richard’s very different take on something we have done together.

Vanilla people have occasionally wandered onto our blog and been alarmed by a post in which I talk about Richard controlling me or hurting me. I think there are two main reasons that I can say with assurance that I am not being abused.

1. Consent. I have given my consent for Richard to make all decisions in our relationship. I can take away this consent at any time. Of course, that could well be a relationship-ending decision, just as making the decision to have multiple sexual partners or a same-sex partner could be a marriage-ending decision (although it needn’t be).

Richard does what he wants to me, whenever and wherever he wants. But it’s not rape and it’s not coercion because I have given a global consent, if you will, to whatever he chooses. BDSM folks refer to this as “consensual non-consent”.

The reason that I am able to comfortably give this consent to Richard, to give total power to him (Total Power Exchange = TPE, another BDSM term) is because I trust him absolutely. I trust him not to harm me, and I trust him to care for me, better even than I would care for myself. This brings me to the second reason I am sure that I am not being abused.

2. Self-esteem. I feel good about myself, I like myself, I feel sexier than I have felt in my whole life, and healthier and happier. Some of our play involves Richard humiliating or degrading me (”You are such a dirty little slut. What kind of girl gets fucked in the ass and then begs to cum? What kind of girl gets wet from being face-fucked? I have never met such a little whore in my entire life.”) After that kind of play, I feel very submissive and clingy (in a hot, sexy way) for a while, but I don’t feel bad about myself.

I have been in some less-than-healthy relationships in my past, all vanilla. I honestly think it was because I was *looking* for a D/s relationship, but didn’t know it - didn’t even know what it was. So I was attracted to older men, bigger men, domineering men, controlling men, because the submissive in me was searching for a Dominant. But they are not the same thing (although unfortunately they can be packaged together). Those relationships bordered on abusive, my relationship with Richard does not.

So how do you know whether it’s BDSM or it’s abuse? I personally think it’s pretty straightforward. Ask yourself two questions.

1. Do I feel coerced or abused? You should not. If it’s D/s, you should feel that you are in the hands of someone who is calling the shots because you gave *consent* for them to call the shots. Sure, sometimes things happen you don’t like - you get spanked or pinched or told to do something you reallyreally don’t want to do. But you should always be able to discuss it. When Richard was talking about doing orgasm control, I had a very strong knee-jerk reaction based upon a looong history of being with men who couldn’t care less whether or not I got to cum. We talked about it and he decided it that it wasn’t a good idea for me at that time. On the flip side, he will occasionally slap me and I find it just.plain.hot. even though I have seen posts where people have argued that all slapping is abuse. If you’re not allowed to talk about it, if you’re told “suck it up” and dismissed, if you feel unheard, coerced, abused…then you probably are.

2. Do I feel good about myself? You should. Being able to be myself sexually has freed me in a way I could not have imagined. Since I have been in a 24/7 D/s relationship, I am more creative, more productive at work, more loving to friends and family, more content, less judgmental, I bake better bread (OK, maybe not the last, but I was starting to nauseate myself so I needed to make a joke). If you feel worthless or unattractive or stupid or weak, particularly after spending time with your partner…then that is not a good partner for you.

All relationships require work, so I’m not saying that if you have concerns about your relationship that you should immediately bail on it. But you should certainly be talking very seriously to your partner if you feel any of these things.

P.S. I am a big fan of “bibliotherapy”, and a great book for deciding whether or not you should be in a relationship is “Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum. It helped me get out of a really awful relationship. It is eye-opening - I highly recommend it. Here’s the link to her blog & info about the book:

November 17, 2007

Flashing her Breasts

Filed under: D/s, Sexy Pictures, Kinky Sex, Amy Pictures — Richard @ 11:26 am


Ah yes.

The part Amy mentioned about the hard fucking in her previous post.

I had forgotten about that. But I had the essential part of the story right, and the hard fucking and kinky sex is really just kind of a peripheral goodness, not that big a deal.


So I have trouble remembering which bouts of wild sex happened on which day. It’s all a blur to me, one long happy fuckfest, but Amy can keep it sorted out. And as long as she can get it straight, good enough.

Which leads us to todays picture. I’d like to report that Amy has become a hardcore exhibitionist, seeking to flash her breasts at every opportunity. But no, she’s still shy, and and only flashes on command, or when I pull her top up. And not in public. Actually, she’s started flashing me in surprising moments.

And she’ll flash for the camera, if I tell her too.

This is one of those moments.

I like it.

What’d ya think?

Amy flashing her breasts

This is a morning shot, in the pale light after sunrise. I’ll let Amy tell you if we had been fucking wildly in any kind of kinky fashion, because clearly I won’t be able to remember it.

November 16, 2007

Punishment spanking

Filed under: D/s, BDSM, Hot sex, Kinky Sex, Daily Life — Amy @ 7:35 am


This is what happens when we don’t post regularly. Last night Richard realized he had a bit of time and decided to write a post.

“Have we done anything? What happened the last time we had sex? I can’t remember.”

“Well, yesterday you were playing with my ass, then you finger-fucked me in my ass and pussy while you teased my nipples. My own squirming woke me up. Then you…”

“Oh yeah. I forgot about that. That was fun.”

“And the day before you gave me my first punishment spanking, and then…”

“Riiiiight. Yeah, that was really hot. OK, I know what I want to write about.”

So he wrote the post (below), except he forgot a bunch of stuff. So I thought I’d give MY spin on it.

First of all, the reason I asked for a spanking (a LITTLE spanking) was because I have been getting sassier and sassier over the last couple of weeks, as my work stress levels have ramped up. Richard has been more forgiving than usual because he understands why it’s happening. But that means I haven’t been getting any negative consequences for increasingly saucy behavior.

We were talking about this while snuggled up in bed and I, feeling guilty for being mouthy and rude, suggested that maybe a LITTLE spanking would help me re-focus. At first he said “Maybe later” but then he perked up (not a good sign) and sat up on the side of the bed.

“Come over here. I’m going to give you an over-the-knee spanking.”

I hesitated. He seemed awfully keen.

“Maybe now’s not a good time. Maybe in the morning would be better?”

“NOW. Get over here. Don’t make me wait.”

So I crawled trepidatiously over to him and laid across his knees, with my toes resting on the floor and my face and arms on the bed.


I squealed. Usually Richard warms up my ass by some gentle spanking before he hits harder. This was really hard, right off the bat.


I squealed again. This one was even harder. Then he started raining down swats on my poor little ass.

I managed to gasp “This isn’t a LITTLE spanking.”

And he replied “No, it’s a punishment spanking. You have been too mouthy lately and I don’t want it to happen anymore. Maybe this will help you remember.”

Every.single.smack. hurt like the dickens. It was not stingy or thuddy, it was just plain hurty. After a while I started crying. I’ve never cried when Richard spanked me, because he’s never spanked me hard like this. Part of me was hoping that my crying would make him want to be gentler.

Doh. When will I “get it” about sadists? He didn’t slow down, he didn’t spank me softer. I suddenly noticed that his cock against my belly had become very hard. He stopped about a minute after I began crying and pulled me up and gave me a big hug and wiped my tears. But before my crying had slowed to sniffling and hiccups he pushed me down onto my back.

“Now I’m going to fuck you.”

I moaned out a “please” or “no” or something, but he just kneed my legs apart and shoved into me. I was shocked by how wet I was. My ass was still hot and sore, but that just made the contrast of the sweet, wet fucking even better.

THEN, after he’d fucked me and cum in me and made me orgasm, THEN we cuddled and touched. He forgot to mention that part.

But he was right that I needed that. I haven’t felt much need to be sassy since then. Or when I do, I keep it to myself.

Afterwards, when we were snuggling, he said “Now are you going to remember who owns you?” and I nuzzled into him, into his big chest and strong arms, and said “Yes Daddy, I’ll remember.”

November 15, 2007

Just a Few Naked Pics of Amy’s Perfect Body

Filed under: Sexy Pictures, Hot sex — Richard @ 10:21 pm


Ok, so what do I owe you?

Been a very busy period - and I’ve been shooting pics out the ying yang.

Wearing myself out.

So I’ll put a few sexy pics of Amy up over the next few days - it’s the least I can do.

And Amy is going to be so mortified when she sees the title of this post.

Amy got her first punishment spanking last week, which was a big event. Or maybe not. I’ll let her talk about it from her end of it, but I learned something from it as well. - Punishment is hot!

I never thought I’d be all that thrilled about punishment.

I was wrong.

Amy wanted a spanking - I forget why. Chances are she’d done some trivial thing, and felt she needed correction. I probably gave her correction, but she wanted catharsis, I suspect. Anyway, I wanted to do something else - sleep probably, since we were in bed, or maybe read the newspaper and she wanted a spanking, preferably today, so I told her I would give her a spanking.

Right now

I put the startled Amy over my knee, and started spanking.


Usually our spankings are more playful, or at the worst sensual, with only a little bit of pain for her. Enough to make it fun, but nothing severe.

This time, I decided to make it a little harsh. I don’t want her asking for a spanking like it’s going to be an easy thing. I want her to know what she is asking for.

I spanked her hard. So hard that I had to switch hands partway through.

I’d smack her hard, my hand cupped slightly for maximum impact. It hit loud and hard, and Amy cried out every time.


This was painful, no question. Very sexy. And her naked ass? Sublime.

Amy was crying at one point, but like a very good girl she didn’t once try to cover her ass with her hands. That’s the part I remember the most - that she resisted that temptation.

Finally, I told her she would get three more spanks, and we counted them down. The last spank, and then I wrapped her up in our duvet and put my arms around her, and told her how proud of her I was for taking her spanking like a good girl, and we cuddled and touched.

And the spanking was very sexy - I thought punishment spankings would be all about discipline, and behavior, but it turns out that I had underestimated just how erotic it would be.

Guess who’s keeping a closer eye on someone’s behavior now!

November 13, 2007

Sugasm # 102

Filed under: Sexy Pictures, Sugasm, Blogs We Read — Richard @ 2:28 pm


Sugasm #102

October 22nd, 2007 by Vixen | Updated: October 22nd, 2007


Janette courtesy of Badgirl’s Hotbox.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #103? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

She Told Me
“She told me she had a headache.”

Fantasy: If you can’t stand the heat…
“You set the ice cube down and force my legs apart.”

Sugarbutch Star: Bad Bad Girl
“I brought my lips down on hers hard, crushing, devouring, insistent.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Upskirt Video from V Magazine

Editor’s Choice
Blog Action Day: Sexual Activism or Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

BDSM & Fetish

My Wife is a Skank! pt2
Peep Show
The piss slit
Significance of a Collar
Under his Thumb

Sex News & Reviews
Featured Design: Go Ahead and Ask Me
My first speculum

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Faking It
Geriatric SEX! yeah. Part 2 of an interview with mimi about her (relatively) new relationship
Rant to follow!
Tantra and Kink: Energy Charge
The Grey Area
TMI Tuesday #105 (Dating Edition)
Top Ten Songs to Do It To

What To Do With Cum (Part 2)

Sex Work
Comfort Sex
Cuckold Fantasies and the “N” Word
Sex Work And Religion: Crucifixion

NSFW Pics & Videos

Catalina Loves Bondage and Nikki Nefarious
Cerydwyn (I Shot Myself)
Erotic Art Show: Houdini
Janette - Morning Blue
Jungbauern Calendar 2008
Naughty Nurse
Ron Harris Studio’s Latest Erotic Photo and Video

Erotic Writing and Experiences

Behind glass
Encounter 1, Part II: Disaster Averted
Find ‘em, Fuck ‘em and Flee
Honey I’m home.
How I Love The Fall
I need you, now

My Afternoon with Alejandro
Rubbing one out
Ruf < cake > Smooth
Sacred & Profane
Sex Tourism
Vignettes of a Cuckoldress

November 7, 2007

We’re still alive!

Filed under: Daily Life — Amy @ 8:36 pm


The reason we haven’t been posting is that I was very wicked a couple of weeks ago and Daddy punished me by taking away my typing privileges. Every night I have to sit naked at his feet with my hands chained together and a ballgag in my mouth, while he reads the newspaper or cruises the internet.

Not really.

The real reason we haven’t been posting is that Richard has brought another man into our relationship. He is a really special person and an incredible lover. But I have been feeling too confused to post about it, not to mention feeling worn out from being tortured and fucked by two demanding men.

OK, not that either.

The real reason we haven’t been posting is that every spare moment we are fucking like bunnies. Demonic bunnies. BDSM bunnies.

Well, that’s only partly true.

I have been in the midst of an extremely demanding time at work. Richard has been very supportive, but it has still been taxing. By the time I get home, I am a Bear of Very Little Brain. Richard doesn’t seem to mind this and in fact seems to get some perverse enjoyment out of me being ditzy; maybe I’m finally acting like the archetypal Dumb Blonde. He likes archetypes.

So I haven’t been capable of writing anything meaningful and Richard has been focused on getting me through this period while keeping his photography going. We are hoping things will slow down soon. In the meantime, rest assured that all is well (thanks everyone for your concern - it was very touching) and we are continuing to have a wild and wicked time.


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