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February 21, 2010

A Show of Hands

Filed under: D/s, Daily Life — Richard @ 7:54 am


I make Amy ask for permission when she wants to use the bathroom.  She used to glare at me, and mutter and scowl, but she did it.  Now it’s ingrained, pretty much a reflex.

So now I’ve started making her raise her hand, when she wants permission to go to the bathroom.  No hand raised, she doesn’t get acknowledged.

I like it.  It’s like she’s back in grade school.


  1. HATE it. hatehatehatehatehate

    And then he REALLY messed with my head by saying, one time when I pouted before finally raising my hand, “A *good* girl would do what her Daddy wanted happily, wouldn’t she? She wouldn’t pout and try not to do it, if her Daddy told her to do something. Because she would want to obey and make him happy.”


    Comment by Amy — February 21, 2010 @ 7:59 am

  2. Guys, seriously. You’re relationship is *so sexy* to me. I’m always happy to read about what you’re doing.


    Richard, you are one patronizing Daddy. I soooo like it! And Amy, I love your pouting comment, too. I’m sure he expected you to pout a little bit, right? But it doesn’t mean you’re pouting will make him give in to you. And isn’t that the best part? That helpless, frustrated little girl feeling…so love/hate for me. I would imagine it must be for you, too.

    Comment by little girlyone — February 21, 2010 @ 8:57 am

  3. ugh. correction: “your” pouting. not “you’re.” english major…

    Comment by little girlyone — February 21, 2010 @ 8:59 am

  4. RE: comment 1.
    Wait, what?
    Richard, you’re complaining cuz Amy’s naughty??
    I’m SO confused… ;-)

    (glad to see you guys!)

    Comment by Jz — February 21, 2010 @ 1:56 pm

  5. Love it! I’m glad to see that you two are back-I’ve really missed reading your blog. Note to self: Must not let Master see this one. He doesn’t need any more ideas.

    Comment by redbottom17 — February 21, 2010 @ 9:42 pm

  6. I can see this happening to me. I can see having to text the request from wherever I was. I can see loving it as my autonomy slowly drained away.

    Once. In a public place. Begging to be allowed to pee, being refused, and forced to drink my 2nd Coke, slurping through the straw the water from the melting ice. It went from need to pain and I hated it but loved it, hated him and loved him, until finally I was allowed to go and couldn’t find the ladies’ room and feared I’d lose it on the floor.

    I can see not even raising my hand. I can see having to catch his eye as my all-seeing Master deliberately looks the other way, making sure I know just who’s the boss.

    Oh yes. I would complain loudly and love every minute. Lucky you, Amy!

    (She hates me now…)

    Comment by oatmeal girl — February 24, 2010 @ 7:36 am

  7. So how long have you been making her raise her hand? And does she have to do it just when you’re alone together? It looks like you are tightening your control and bringing out her submissive side to an even greater degree than you did before.


    Comment by Florida Dom — February 24, 2010 @ 8:51 am

  8. amy doesn’t seem to be too happy about it, but i’d love to have to ask permission to go to the bathroom. it’s definitely a really good reminder of who’s in control! the fact that she has to raise her hand is even better. i’m sure i would complain too, but i’d love to feel so hugely submissive like that.

    Comment by kelsi — March 3, 2010 @ 8:10 am

  9. There’s something about how bourgeois your relationship is, and how real and functional the both of you seem, that makes everything both of you say extremely tangible. It’s not a matter of “Oh, honey, I like it when you spit on my face and pull on my nose ring.” It’s more of a “Pass the newspaper.” “Yes, sir.” “Jesus, look at this housing market!” I think I may be (not-so) secretly in love with the two of you.

    Comment by Allegra — March 5, 2010 @ 10:03 am

  10. really enjoying your blog….feeling very inspired, motivated and normal! Can you give me some much needed insight please??? I’m kind of stuck and feeling desperate.
    i recently reached the realisation of who I am and NEED to live my truth. My husband wants to help me explore being a submissive and so far its ok and a huge improvement. However, I still have to give him ideas and suggestions of what to do and what i’d like (which defeats the purpose of being a submissive) but i want him to direct, command and control me. Here is my question….is he always going to be vanilla just keeping me happy or if he comes under some mentorship will he grow into the ‘Daddy’ I desperately desire. Can this work?? thanks…

    Comment by Bridgette — March 8, 2010 @ 7:29 pm

  11. Thanks everybody for the comments! Haven’t been able to be on for quite a while and it was SO nice to see everyone’s thoughts. Allegra, I think yours may be my favorite comment of all time. I am still giggling about it.

    Bridgette, so glad you are enjoying our blog. Of course, I can’t say if your husband will embrace being the D in a D/s relationship - he needs to live his truth too. I will say that I totally understand your not wanting to tell him what you’d like (I really have trouble with that!) but you may need to do it for a bit until he becomes more comfortable being dominant. A GREAT blog - wonderful writing and so honest - is “persephone in love” on our blogroll. Her boyfriend is/was essentially “vanilla” when they met and has become such a natural, sexysexysexy dominant. You could ask your husband to read that blog (or this one, for that matter). It may give him ideas (of course, you might end up not liking some of those ideas!)

    PS We went to a nude spa/swingers club today and HAD SEX IN BROAD DAYLIGHT IN THE POOL WITH PEOPLE WATCHING!!!!!!! I will post more soon. So much for Richard insisting he is not an exhibitionist. *I* didn’t initiate it, I assure you.


    Comment by Amy — March 15, 2010 @ 10:49 pm

  12. A few more thoughts, or elaborations. Amy has embraced having to get permission to go to the bathroom. She actually asks my permission whenever she leaves my presence - she sees it as a sign of respect. But the raising her hand, that just seemed to catch her in a very yummy, instantly shy making little girl place. I didn’t see it as tightening my control, but Amy is pretty certain I keep doing just that.

    I’ve stopped making her do that for now; it just wasn’t workable in the context of daily interactions with vanillas. I’ll bring it back as the thought amuses me.

    And allegra, I always tell Amy that we are Ricky and Lucy, from the old “I Love Lucy” TV show. Totally bourgeois, just a simple, plain, boring couple who are a throwback to the types of iconic male female relationship you saw idealized in the fifties.

    And yes, I fucked Amy in a pool today while people watched. Multiple times, actually. I quite recommend it.

    Comment by Richard — March 15, 2010 @ 11:14 pm

  13. Jeez, y’all. You guys get a lot of those “let me be a total asshole adn say the most ridiculous thing ever” comments. How in the world do you put up with that!? I would start fightin’ people!

    Comment by Allegra — March 27, 2010 @ 11:24 am

  14. Please write more! I LOVE your blog.

    Totally random request: Do you guys have suggestions for movies/shows/TV episodes that deal with BDSM? I’d love to watch some with my friend, but aside from “Secretary” and “Quills,” it seems to be pretty bleak. Thoughts?

    Comment by a reader — April 4, 2010 @ 1:33 am

  15. I didn’t care for “Secretary”, nor “Quills.” The only decent movie I can think of was “The Story of O.” But you can look for more stuff at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM_in_culture_and_media

    Comment by Richard — April 4, 2010 @ 9:10 am

  16. may be you will care for sm rechter ?


    what’s happening… No more blog ?

    Comment by erospower — July 3, 2010 @ 6:24 am

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