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May 31, 2008

What’s going on

Filed under: Daily Life — Amy @ 9:55 pm


Hi everybody! Long time no blog. I was teasing Richard about just jumping in with a picture and then talking about a particular event (”Cum Here Often?”), without explaining what’s been going on with us for the last little bit. What a guy.

Soooo I thought I’d just give you a quick update of the last few months. At least as much as I can without giving too many details about my job, etc. It feels weird to be posting again. I think it’s easy to get out of the habit, and then it takes some major “activation energy” to start doing it again. I really had to make myself sit down and write tonight. I’m feeling a bit shy and unsure of exactly what to say, I guess from lack of practice.

As some of you know, I have been wrestling with migraines since December. It’s only been in the last month that I have been mainly pain-free. (And many, many thanks for the great suggestions from y’all - several of them helped quite a bit. I’m managing it now with acupuncture, occasional Imitrex, and cautious use of the computer and driving, my main triggers.) It has been challenging for me not to become discouraged and depressed about the pain. Hats off to all of you who have dealt with years of chronic pain with grace and good humor.

Professionally, the last year has been extremely challenging but also very rewarding. I am happily entering a much lower-pressure period now and I’m looking forward to getting back to the rest of my life - writing this blog, gardening, cooking, exercising regularly. If it weren’t for Richard, I would not now be saying that this was a rewarding year, only that it was challenging. Because of his support - emotional, intellectual, logistical - I feel like I’ve entered a new level of productivity. Really, I haven’t done this level of work since before my children were born. And that’s with a recurring migraine - wow. It is great to have a partner.

As you know, my best friend Megan lived with us for a couple of months. It was wonderful having her with us and I would have loved for her to stay longer. I miss having her as part of our daily life. But she got stolen away by a wonderful sadist. Honestly, just the greatest guy you can imagine. She was swept off her feet and, once I met him and spent time with him, I understood why. Handsome, smart, funny, mellow…and apparently deliciously evil in private. I think my Megan has finally met her match, and met her life partner. I am so happy for her. And I miss her (did I say that already?)

During the time that we weren’t blogging regularly, our one-year blog-iversary and our one-year anniversary as a married couple passed. I told Richard “I guess I’m not a bride anymore.” But he said we’re not really married until Elvis marries us (he wants to renew our vows in Vegas - ew). I guess I’ll be living in sin for quite some time.

I look back over this year and so much has happened, it’s hard to believe. Sometimes I think that I’ve changed so much - going from being one of the most independent women I know and one of the most vanilla and inexperienced, to being…a Daddy’s girl, an owned woman, a sex toy. Mostly, though, I think that I’ve finally come home. I am finally myself, whole and complete. That has released an enormous amount of joy and energy and creativity. I owe all this to Richard. I am so grateful.

Well, I’ve certainly rambled, and I’m not sure if I’ve told you everything I meant to. Richard mentioned the hideous spam problem we had to deal with. I guess that’s it. Remind me if I’ve forgotten something. I’m eager to get back to writing and I promise next time it will be something sexy.



  1. Well I think it’s great to feel fullfilled by your partner that is a hard thing to keep up.I am going though some rough times the wife wants to swing but then she does’nt. It’s funny when she is the center it’s okay but when I am approached she gets upset any ideas.

    Comment by Tom — May 31, 2008 @ 11:04 pm

  2. As far as your migraines go, I had my first one when I was 7 years old. It apparently branded itself in my memory forever. I got them periodically after that, at least 3 or 4 times a year. Then I started working at a job that I absolutely loved, but was very stressful and very noisy. I worked at the job for maybe a year before I started having migraines daily. Sometimes I could control them, or at least numb them and other times I couldn’t. I worked in that job for almost 2 decades. I tried everything that came out. I never found any specific “triggers” for mine. I tried all the new medications and always ended up going back to the original migraines…until about a year and a half ago. Although its very expensive, there is a pill for migraines now called “Relpax.” It is the ONLY pill (or shot…or nasal spray)that has worked consistently for my migraines. I quit my job last year. That was the first thing that helped. My migraines decreased to about once a week with the termination of my employment. Relpax, especially during the time I was working was amazing. It had no side effects, it didn’t make me feel “funny”, no medicine head, no nausea, no palpating heart. My older brother, who also suffers with migraine (and imagine this…we even worked in the same field) and has since pre-adolescence, also has discovered the benefits of Relpax. I am kind of a walking ad for it. Women are statistically more prone to migraines, with migraines being most common in conjunction with a womans cycle. I wish you the best in learning to cope with them. My husband (also working in the same field) started having migraines about 2 years ago. He is so sympathetic to them now. He tried to be before but he was absolutely clueless as to the extent of the pain. He also takes Relpax and has been consistently successful in relieving the pain. Good luck.

    Comment by foxthatsspanked — June 1, 2008 @ 1:29 am

  3. Welcome back Amy, you’ve been missed. I’m looking forward to your new postings (loved your last picture, you are very sexy).

    You are probably getting more migrane advice that you need but I started getting migranes suddenly when I was about 40, especially using the computer at work.

    After all the doctors and things I tried the answer turned out to be that I simply needed glasses for the first time.

    Just thought I’d share in case you haven’t tried (it seemed silly to me that I took me so long to find a fairly obvious solution, but it just never occured to me and was only casually mentioned by the doctors…)

    Comment by JP — June 1, 2008 @ 3:52 am

  4. Welcome back!
    You were missed tremendously!~

    I am very happy to hear your migraines are mostly under control. My daddy has them often - their NO FUN!

    **hugs** welcome back again to the both of you! Happy belated anniversary.

    Comment by Juli — June 1, 2008 @ 7:10 am

  5. Yay! Welcome back :)
    I’ve been getting migraines since I was 10. I feel your pain.
    So happy to hear that you all are doing well.

    Comment by Chantal — June 1, 2008 @ 12:37 pm

  6. Oh, migraines are teh suck.

    It’s great that things are so rewarding for you - and wow, congrats on the one year anniversaries!

    Comment by Luka — June 1, 2008 @ 12:42 pm

  7. I miss you too, beautiful! Gosh, I couldn’t stop crying when I was picking up my furniture last weekend. I love you so much!!! Xoxoxoxoxooxxo

    Comment by megan — June 1, 2008 @ 1:25 pm

  8. i know what you mean about blogging habits…life moves and to keep up you have to slide things off the table…if i miss more than two days it could be a week before i blog again and i have to force myself to sit down, once i do i am fine though…although my blog isnt anywhere near as enjoyable as yours!


    Comment by curiousgirl — June 1, 2008 @ 10:39 pm

  9. I somehow stumbled on your blog when it was only 2 or 3 posts old. I’ve been reading ever since. Can’t beleive it’s been a whole year! Congrats on all of your successes. I look forward to another year of posts!!!

    Comment by sjm — June 2, 2008 @ 1:50 pm

  10. OMG!! RICHARD I found something for you here!


    Over under latest news they are having a photo contest. I read that and thought of you two. Your photos are simply amazing and would win any contest hands down (ok so I’m a bit biased) but your work is fantastic!!!

    Check it out if you like….

    Just thought of you two and thought i would send the great find along!

    Comment by Juli — June 4, 2008 @ 5:13 pm

  11. Hey guys. I am so glad to see you blogging again. Amy, I know, all too well what you are going through with the migraines. I am currently out on short term disability with them, after trying many things. I am in limbo, waiting to get in to a neurologist. The pain is driving me insane. I suspect I may end up losing my new job out of the deal. *hugs* I hope it continues to get easier for you.

    Comment by AmyElle — June 4, 2008 @ 10:30 pm

  12. Hi Tom: We don’t swing, but there are several sites that talk about it and I’ve seen some great advice. Check out www.sugasm.com to get some ideas. A final thought: if she’s okay with it as long as she’s the center then…make her the center! Sounds win-win to me. : )

    foxthatspanked: I will ask my doctor about Relpax - thanks for that info. I’m glad yours have gotten better. I had the exact same experience when my job got less stressful. Now I’m having a migraine only about once every week or two. It’s so much better.

    JP, you must be a mind-reader - I just had my eyes checked! And in my case that’s not the problem, but I can sure see how it could be.

    *hugs* back at you Juli! Sorry to hear your daddy has migraines too. I’m glad he has you to help when he’s feeling bad. Oh, and we visited the site you linked to - wow what a gorgeous pic! Hope they post more. I’d love to talk to you some time about what you think of their philosophy.

    Chantal thanks for the welcome back. *hugs* to you too.

    Luka, you are teh bomb, and haven’t you cracked one year now too? xoxo

    ooOOOoooo Miss Megan, love you too!!!

    curiousgirl, I’m glad to hear it’s not just me. And I love your blog. Now I’ve got to get back into reading everybody else’s blog too.

    sjm, you are one of our oldest friends here, along with jdsgirl. So glad you keep coming!

    Oh, AmyElle, I am so sorry. I hope you’re feeling better soon. I thought I was going to have to take a leave for a while. Hang in there and a big hug from me.

    Comment by Amy — June 7, 2008 @ 9:09 am

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