Orgasms and Megan
Long-time readers of our blog know that my friend Megan, who had a huge impact on my blossoming as a sexual submissive, now lives far away from us with her wonderful, evil Master. I have missed her like crazy and have been counting the minutes until we saw her this summer. We just left after spending four nights with her and her Master. I was in seventh heaven and, as usual when I am with Megan, learned a lot about being submissive and being myself.
She and Robert (her Master) pulled up to where we were staying and I ran over to their car. Robert got out first and I said “hi!” and hopped up and down waiting for Megan to get out. Then I realized she was waiting for Robert to let her out of the car, like Richard makes me do. So I gave Robert a big hug and waited for him to go around and open the door for Megan.
The first thing I saw was a tanned foot in a 3-inch beaded sandal, with red toenails and toe rings. Followed by a long, shapely, tanned leg. And then another. Then a tall, gorgeous blond with a tiny little dress unfolded from the car. Perfectly styled hair, knockout make-up, and of course the trademark killer body. Wow!
Megan has always been jaw-droppingly gorgeous. But she had entered a new realm of beautiful. And the most beautiful thing was her face, because she was glowing. Just radiating love, happiness, self-confidence.
I don’t think I stopped hugging her for an hour.
We stayed up talking for hours. I can’t tell you how thrilled I am about her Master (I keep starting to say “new Master” but of course he’s not; they’ve been together for over a year now.) I told Megan that of course I would always care about whoever her partner was, but Robert is someone I would want to be friends with even if they weren’t together. He is really smart and has a terrific sense of humor – my two top priorities for friends and partners. He also makes it really clear how much he loves my Megan. He is very attentive and affectionate; he does something that I think must be very hard to do, which is to treat her with complete respect but also demand her utter obedience.
At one point I mentioned that I had bought Richard a whip for Father’s Day (what was I thinking?) and I asked if he knew how to use a whip. He said “No, I don’t. But that makes it hotter, doesn’t it?” !!!! That could have come out of Richard’s mouth! I was almost too startled by the similarity to laugh.
I can’t remember whether it was that night or the next morning that Megan told us that she hadn’t had an orgasm in a year. I stared at her with my mouth open, I actually thought she was teasing me at first (she does that a LOT). When I wrote about my three day orgasm denial, which I thought might kill me, I had almost written about a conversation Megan and I had the year before. We had agreed that orgasm denial was completely NotHot, and we couldn’t imagine any woman ever agreeing to it. It was a hard limit for her.
So. What the heck? How could my sweet little cumslut friend not have cum for an entire year, and be sitting across from me looking like the cat that ate the canary? How could she be glowing with happiness and satisfaction after a year of being deprived of orgasms?
Richard’s response was worrying. He thought this was just awesome. He was grinning from ear to ear as we listened to her story. At first, Robert enjoyed making her cum, over and over and over. Which was sexy and exhausting. Then he started telling her she could only cum if she did before he did. Which she managed to do, until he started messing with her, stopping just as she was on the edge and then orgasming quickly himself before she could regroup. I remember her telling me about this at the time, and how hot and desperate and submissive it made her feel. THEN he told her that it was making her too focused on her own pleasure and not enough on his, so…no more orgasms for her. Period.
Megan said “I love it! This is really perfect for me. I am getting fucked deliciously all the time, and I’m not worrying about whether or not I will cum, because I won’t.” She added with a grin “But maybe he’s just brainwashed me into thinking this.” She was tucked under his arm as she told the story and at this point she looked up at him and he looked at her and there was so much love between them, I’m tearing up right now thinking about it.
Of course we talked about this on and off over the next few days, in between talking about her job and our kids and her and Robert’s future plans and more kinky stuff, like the strip clubs they go to (more on this in a later post; we visited one with them and it was a blast) and their evolving polyamorous relationship, and Second Life and on-line role-play, and on being D/s while dealing with migraines, and on and on (more on all of these later too).
When I talked to Richard about Megan’s orgasm-free existence, he said “The right tools for the right job.” He said it made perfect sense to him that this was exactly the right thing for Megan and he pointed out that you could see it by the results. Robert says he’s not a details-oriented Dom, he’s a results-oriented Dom. Another way that he is like Richard. (I told Megan they are even boring in the same way; they both like Civil War history. *yawn* I got a swat for saying that and Megan got bitten hard when she told Robert I said that. I said “You didn’t tell him I said it, did you??” And she said, “Yes, and it was worth it!”)
This post is getting way too long, so I will write more later. I just want to add that, in case it’s not obvious, Robert made this decision carefully and thoughtfully and they are both very happy with it. Robert says the next step is to make her FAKE orgasms when he is fucking her. Who could even think of anything that evil? Well, besides Richard I mean.
Wow. I know I can go a while without orgasm, so Richard (my husband) is more focused on making me have them than denying them. It used to be nothing for me to go months without. Although we discovered that it greatly affects my mood. But I wonder… If I got over the moodyness, if I would be able to do that. *ponders*
Anyways, I hope to one day find a friend like that. Right now I feel very alone in the world, not having someone, other than R, to talk to.
You are a very lucky woman!
Comment by Natasha A. — July 9, 2009 @ 3:45 pm
While I *really* can’t say I see myself getting behind the long-term denial thing, I howled at the making her fake orgasms thing. I’m afraid I know someone just that devious myself and I could just picture the intrigued look on his face… too funny! (But I won’t be having him read this post, either!
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I look forward to the rest of the stories…
Comment by Jz — July 9, 2009 @ 4:18 pm
I cannot imagine not enjoying a womans’orgasm after a period of denial. Let alone denying one for a year and then asking her to fake them. There is nothing more satisfying than hearing and feeling her orgasms that you control.
Comment by Dvid — July 9, 2009 @ 9:22 pm
Jeez….this sounds more like SELF denial to me.
Robert is denying himself that amazing feeling of his lady orgasming during love making.
Why I wonder?
Also, isnt it cruel to impose such restrictions on the one you love?
Comment by Joe — July 10, 2009 @ 3:10 am
Hmmmm…. I am devilish enough myself to consider the idea of having real orgasms while pretending I am having fake orgasms. How will he ever know the difference? Hehe. Though I understand you submissive types probably can’t fake “faking.” To each his own… While I think the idea of orgasm denial is hot up to a point - I don’t think I could last a year under these rules! Yikes!
Comment by jojo — July 10, 2009 @ 10:06 am
I am amused to see everyone focusing on the tool, and not the result. Having or not having orgasms is irrelevant; it’s the end result that matters.
For Megan, it is working perfectly. She’s happy, contented and visibly glowing with some indefinable rapture. It’s interesting that her Master experimented with her, first making her cum often, then refining the use of this tool and discovering just what worked best for his girl.
Who knew it would be no orgasms at all?!
Well, seriously, orgasms aren’t that big a deal. It’s the fucking that is the fun part, where you get your intimacy. And I’ve often chosen in the past not to cum, because I enjoy the primal hunting edge it gives me in the rest of my life. Especially if I’m going to be doing any photography. Satiation can be a dulling tool.
It’s wonderfully cruel, and deliciously decadent - it’s a thrill just top be in the presence of this exciting, sensual woman and know that she’s very able, but forbidden, to cum. The ultimate sex toy, in so many ways.
Both Megan and her Master have given up the pleasures around her orgasms.
But he’s exchanged them for something even better.
Comment by Richard — July 11, 2009 @ 7:08 am
Natasha, I am very lucky; having friends who know your whole self makes being submissive so much easier. Remember that I met Megan and now Chantal online, my two best friends (not to mention Richard, my soulmate). Come visit us on Second Life!
Jz, I laughed at the faking thing too! You have to admire true evil genius. Of course, I wouldn’t have laughed if it had been Richard talking about it (he thought this was awesome too.
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Dvid, yes, I think you got it exactly right - “orgasms you control”. Whether it’s forcing orgasms or denying them, it is about control.
Joe, yep, it’s cruel. That’s the point.
Clearly Robert (and Megan) are getting more from her NOT having orgasms than if she had them. It wouldn’t work for a lot of people, but it works beautifully for them.
Jojo, omg you made me laugh out loud. You ARE devilish!
Daddy…never mind. *zips her lip*
xoAmy
Comment by Amy — July 11, 2009 @ 8:33 am
Hehe, you are so cute. I can totally picture you jumping up and down while you wait for Megan to get out of the car.
Comment by Chantal — July 12, 2009 @ 6:37 pm