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July 22, 2008

Reader requests

Filed under: Daily Life — Amy @ 1:43 pm


I just got a request from one of our readers (SherbetBerry at Fetlife) to talk a bit more about sub-drop.  I feel like a bit of a faker writing about it, since I’ve only experienced it the once.   I’m still at the stage of shaking my head and saying “Jeez, what hit me?” (And I don’t mean Richard the Flogger. lol)  I thought I might instead ask readers with more experience to post their thoughts about it.  Wouldja?  See also sulpicia’s blog (on our blogroll) for a recent post about the same.

SherbetBerry got me thinking more generally about reader requests.  We used to get more than we do now and I just realized that our email addresses are not on this site (they were on the old site.)  I shall address that today.  FYI, my email address is [email protected].

I would also like to ask, for those of you who are comfortable responding here, to let us know about what you like or don’t like and what you would like to hear or see more (and if you’d like to remain anonymous, just give yourself a silly name, so I can distinguish between you eg QuietPerson or Lurker : )).  For example, more posts by Richard?  Pictures of Richard?  (Do you like how I’m making more work for Richard?  I’m sure my ass will hear about it when he reads this post. hehe) 

Seriously though, do you have questions about previous posts that weren’t answered?  Is there something we haven’t written about that you want to know more about?  What are your favorite posts to read?  (That will help me think about things to focus on in future.)

I have a few topics of my own that I hope to write about in the next couple of weeks, but it would be GREAT to get input from you on your interests and preferences.  I sometimes think if readers knew how much most bloggers enjoy comments, they would post a lot more.  

And now I’m going to the pool!  Once I can drag Richard and the kids away from their computers, that is…



  1. I personally love the pics of you, of Richard. I definitely getting his take on a story when you have given yours. You guys really complement each other.

    I can’t think of anything I would like to hear additional posts on specifically. As a voyeur, I always want to know more about everything.

    Comment by His.stormy — July 22, 2008 @ 2:48 pm

  2. I originally subscribed to a number of blogs in the BDSM space, and have since unsubscribed from most all of them. I stay subscribed to yours because you are articulate, genuine, and you talk about your kink in deep way. By that I mean that you examine motivations and responses. You don’t sensationalize, in a way many of the blogs do, that suggests you are getting off on exposing your sex life. I like that you are thoughtful, and basically you offer me insights that either cause me to think or that give me outright ideas. As for what you could do more of, just keep doing the same.

    Of course, more naked pictures doesn’t suck either ;-)

    Thank you for a wonderful blog, and for sharing your experiences with us.

    Comment by Neil — July 22, 2008 @ 4:11 pm

  3. I love eveything!

    I do have one question though. I remember reading a few posts where Richard was wanting to get you pregnant. Is that sill in the cards for you?

    Comment by Chantal — July 22, 2008 @ 6:16 pm

  4. Hi stormy - thanks and I’m glad you’re enjoying the blog.

    Neil, Richard laughed when I read “more naked pictures doesn’t suck”. Thanks for your thoughts and compliments, and we will be posting more naked pics - just for you. : )

    Chantal, ooOOoo you have a good memory! Yes, we’ve been practicing and practicing but no luck yet. I am finally in a place (and Richard has been all along) where I would be happy either way. We have beautiful children, would love to have one together, but are also really loving our “alone” time. Thanks for asking. xoxox


    Comment by Amy — July 22, 2008 @ 6:32 pm

  5. i love reading your blog…it is so genuine and insightful…i like how you both post about the same event/situation so that it actually sounds like two completely different occurrences rather than the same one…it is nice because then we truly get to see inside both sides…the pics are great, but then richard takes such incredibly beautiful pictures…my favorite ones are of amy outside against something harsher, like when she was on the rocks or in the shed…it gives the impression that amy is alone somewhere in the world and we are watching her unawares…


    Comment by curiousgirl — July 22, 2008 @ 9:01 pm

  6. I love to read your personal insights about emotions and motivations. This is what kept me looking for new posts here, when you were on your hiatus. So please just go on with that.

    And I would like to see an occasional post from Richard. About his emotions and his motivations.

    Regarding pictures: You are lovely and of course I appreciate if you share yourself with us occasionally. But full nudity in pictures is overrated. I believe it is much more interesting to see the female body, your body, Amy, partly concealed, partly exposed and your wonderful curves highlighted. Be it by light and shadow or lingerie or other props. Richard is a photographer, he knows about that of course, and so do you.

    But most of all, have fun. Both of you. For yourself. And we are grateful if you share a bit of that with us. Thank you for the glimpses into your mind, Amy.

    Comment by Marc — July 23, 2008 @ 12:23 am

  7. I’m a midwife, so I remember everything baby related, lol

    Comment by Chantal — July 23, 2008 @ 8:02 am

  8. I also especially love when you guys post on the same topic–sometimes without having read what the other person has said. It’s fascinating to read about the same event from two points of view, and what’s really interesting to see is how often your views line up. I’d think that’s why you two are a match!

    Comment by sera — July 23, 2008 @ 9:24 am

  9. i am curious to see some photos of richard. at least a glimpse of his body.

    Comment by jojo — July 23, 2008 @ 12:13 pm

  10. I must say, I also like seeing what Amy has written and see her take on a topic - it’s always fascinating because there are always insights that haven’t occurred to me as well.

    Comment by Richard — July 23, 2008 @ 12:42 pm

  11. This is a picture of me spanking Amy - you can see some of me here at least.


    Comment by Richard — July 23, 2008 @ 12:44 pm

  12. I agree with sera… i love to see the both sides of the relationship and the dynamics behind it. Your blog is tastefully done and a treasure to our community!

    Sure… naked does not hurt.. but what about some really great “couple” d/s photos of you both?? Richard does awesome work - it would be interesting to see what he comes up with for those photos.

    Comment by Juli — July 23, 2008 @ 4:11 pm

  13. I love your blog! I always enjoy reading, but rarely have anything to say. (I used to comment as Sir’s girl, but I am more of a Daddy’s girl than Sir’s girl and he likes junebug, so I digress…)

    I was interested in the baby plans also, thanks for the update and best of luck with this for the both of you.

    The day to day dynamics are interesting to me. Of course I like the sex parts, but I enjoy learning about how you can integrate D/s and the Daddy/ little girl dynamic into your daily lives. Your relationship reminds me a lot of mine, we met online, then met in person, fell in love, got engaged (haven’t figured out the wedding part yet with family all over the place - hey, maybe we should elope). I have never had any kind of D/s or BDSM relationship before (when we first met, I kept calling it BSDM and could never get any of the letters right *laughs at self*.

    Anyway, enough about me - I like to hear about how you and Richard interact and what type of structure (if any) Richard has implemented as part of the household.

    Take care,

    Comment by junebug — July 23, 2008 @ 5:37 pm

  14. more pictures OF Richard!! of course the ones of you are lovely…but we see so little of him!

    Comment by cyndi — July 24, 2008 @ 5:22 am

  15. Hah! I came on here to say “More pictures of Richard” too - mainly because I thought it would piss him off :)

    Comment by Z — July 24, 2008 @ 10:53 am

  16. I’m intrigued as to how you took that pic of you spanking Amy, Richard - camara on a timer?

    Comment by mamacrow — July 24, 2008 @ 2:28 pm

  17. I personally find the more day to day aspects of your lives together to be the most interesting. A lot of the blogs I have read and read seem to be just play by play descriptions of…well, play. Getting a glimpse of two articulate and kinky people’s daily lives, and their obviously loving relationship, is a refreshing change. And I have to agree, more naked pictures of Amy would definitely not suck! Also, and I hope I’m not overstepping by asking this, I would like to know more about how you deal with the children, in regards to your dynamic. Blended families can be difficult enough to navigate, let alone in a relationship such as yours. (If I did overstep with this question, I apologize. Just tell me to f*** off and I will).

    Comment by justdave — July 26, 2008 @ 12:14 am

  18. curiousgirl: It’s interesting you talk about the pics of me in which you feel that you are “watching me unawares”; Richard talks about being drawn to pictures that have a voyeuristic element in them. So I think you’re on the same page about that.

    Marc, both Richard and I agree with you that suggestion can be powerfully more erotic than the ole full-frontal. I guess that is at the boundary of art and pornography…

    Chantal :D

    sera, thanks and I agree. I’m (we’re) very lucky.

    jojo (and cyndi and Z), I agree! And Z, you crack me up : )

    Julie, we have been talking about doing couple pics! Both for the blog and I would like one (similar to our blog header) with both of us tangled together for our bedroom. I have been pitching this to Richard heavily and I hope he’ll take me up on it.

    junebug, it sounds like we have very similar dynamics, not to mention lives! Re Richard’s structure hahahahhahahahahha *snort* (No, he doesn’t like structure. I will post more on this soon : )).

    mamacrow, Richard took the pic with a timer. We also have a remote clicker thingy.

    justdave, you didn’t overstep at all. I agree that blended families are hard and being D/s in a household with children brings its own special challenges. Since this is the most specific request we got (except for more pics, especially of Richard : )) I’m going to do that now.

    Comment by Amy — July 26, 2008 @ 4:50 pm

  19. I actually really like the posts that talk about your relationship and the romance. I like knowing that healthy BDSM relationships exist and that you cna ahve the romance and the BDSM.

    Comment by rievenne — July 28, 2008 @ 3:09 pm

  20. I have just finished reading your blog from the begining. I find it emotionally and intellectually provocative. This is my first post to a blog, ever, so I am a bit shy. My first question is for Amy: Do you think your D/s relationship has helped you become a better boss?

    Comment by latebloomer — July 30, 2008 @ 9:42 am

  21. rievenne, I agree with you that romance and BDSM are wonderful companions. : )

    Hi latebloomer! (That would be a great name for me as well : )) Thanks for the compliment, and I’m so happy you enjoyed it. Yes, I’m a better boss since I’ve been in a D/s relationship. Mainly because I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and that makes me calmer and clearer. But also because I have come to terms with who I am, and I’m really comfortable in my own skin, so I’m able to respond authentically to everyone I work with. Did you have some specific thoughts on this?

    Comment by Amy — July 30, 2008 @ 10:58 am

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